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Groom and groomsmen at Poplar Springs Manor Wedding

How to be a Groomsmen | Wedding Party Advice

Feb 23, 2023

How to be a Groomsmen

Groom laughing with groomsmen before Hermitage Museum Wedding in Norfolk VA

Your friend has asked you to be a groomsman, and now you’re wondering how to be a good groomsman. I got you! After working with hundreds of groomsmen, I can give you some great tips to ensure you’re a loved wedding party member.

Have their back, always!

When I say they, I mean your friend and their future spouse. If they need help, be there. Step up, and take responsibilities or issues off their plate so they can enjoy events and their wedding day. Does grandma need to be picked up from the airport? Volunteer to ensure she gets to where she’s going on time. Need to do a beer run? Jump to it! Whether it is your friend or their soon to be spouse, listen to what they need and take action so they can truly soak up all the moments of their celebration!

Groom and groomsmen at Poplar Springs Manor Wedding

This isn’t about you…

It would be best if you weren’t the star of the show. Take a step down, and play a supporting role during the entire process. All eyes should not be on you or what you will do next. This also applies to your wedding event and wedding day attire. If they ask you to wear certain items, don’t veer off course, as that draws too much attention away from your friends. Don’t do it even if you know it will get a few laughs. If you must spice things up, do it at the end of the night at the reception and make it quick. Do not, for the love of all things holy, make a scene at the wrong time.

Be a gentleman.

Just because you’re a groomsman, this does not permit you to become a college party boy again. I said what I said. I’m not here to be a fun sponge, trust me. I want you to have fun, but don’t forget that you’re married, in a relationship, a decent human being, or a father and fall into a frat boy mentality. This goes for wedding events and the wedding day. I’ll let you in on a little secret: our biggest groomsmen complaint as a wedding vendor? Getting hit on by groomsmen. We don’t like it; we have zero interest in you. So save yourself the embarrassment and don’t. Be a gentleman.

groom and groomsmen at Wadsworth Homestead

Plan ahead!

There are a lot of events and cost to being in a wedding party. The biggest advice for this, plan ahead. Schedule time off in advance, and set a budget to ensure you can grab that extra bottle of bourbon during the bachelor weekend without worry.

Don’t make their partner sweat.

You should be the least of anyone’s worries. Do not make them stress that you will do something stupid; that’s just not cool. They have worked so hard to bring an event together to celebrate THEIR love, don’t ruin it by taking the spotlight. You should bring the fun, but do it in a way that won’t make them cringe.

Groom getting ready for wedding day

Don’t mess with the photos!

We like to have fun, yes. There’s a fine line between having fun and ruining photos. We don’t need to see any extra skin or crude gestures. Have fun, but if you wouldn’t do something in front of your grandmother, don’t do it for photos!

Don’t miss the rest of my wedding party advice; check out How to be a Bridesmaid!